However, today someone sent me an interesting story that I had not previously seen (I apologize if it's been all over the news for the last 72 hours and I just missed it). The story inside the story in this couples interview is what got me. They have two children together and basically the boyfriend/baby daddy/father abandons his girlfriend and kids in order to save himself.
I am not necessarily saying it's what happened in this case, but.... has anyone else noticed an influx in women who have been so beat down and deceived by the "all women just want to trap you and marry you" cliché that now we allow men to actually trap us?
For instance this woman has had not one, but two of this man's children. He did not marry her. I can only imagine that it had something to do with him "not being ready" or some other equally as lame excuse but as I stated above that's pure speculation. However, no matter how she files on her taxes, she will never truly be "single" ever again. As soon as a woman has a child, she might as well be married because she is now part of a unit, an inseparable package deal for any future suitors. That's not true for men though. They can have 15 kids by 15 different women and still someone, somewhere will offer to make it 16.
Society as a whole has come to expect so much less from men. Is it because of the feminist movement? I don't know, but I often wonder. Every time they turn around we're flexing our muscles declaring how we can do it all alone, so there is no longer that sense of guilt that a 1950's deadbeat dad might have felt. Society no longer shames him in the way it once did. Because after all, we're just a bunch of marriage-starved baby-makers looking to cure our fetus fever.
But back to the original point of this post. The man below was not willing to commit to the woman who lovingly sacrificed her freedom for him, so why are we surprised when he will not sacrifice his life for her or his children when he's suddenly the one trapped?
No, the only thing that surprised me about all of this is that after fleeing the theater to save himself, and allowing a 19-year-old stranger to protect his girlfriend and kids, he actually had the balls to go in and finally propose to her. Oh, and then that she said "yes." C'mon girl.... fo' real?
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Post by Destiny
Sad that she said yes. It always confused me when guys say they aren't ready for marriage, yet they are ok with making babies. How is a life LESS of a commitment than a marriage?
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