We Get That Y'all Think WE'RE The Clueless Ones, But Um, As If...

If I didn't know any better I'd say everything feminism is now is *gasp* kinda misogynistic. Actually I do know better, and it's all a total crock. 

Show me this modern guy who wants a full quiver of kids to carry on his family name and help him plow his fields, and I'll show you a chick who still vacuums in high heels and pearls. That dude just doesn't exist anymore. We love things more than people these days, and bottom line, kids cost too much. 

Kid's=less money for things+they ruin everything nice, thus Pregnant+Barefoot (2012)=no bueno. 

See, the modern misogynist wants commitment free sex and free abortion on demand. THAT is how he will be able to exploit a woman's mind, body, and soul and keep her in true bondage for the rest of her life. Because when you trick a woman into "fighting for her right" to go against her instinct and kill her unborn child, then tell her it was just a clump of cells, so if she feels devastated by this then she's crazy and un-liberated and setting women back, you have truly oppressed her. 

If anything will make us stronger it will be acknowledging SCIENCE (not that big, scary word again) and accepting the fact that our bodies release Oxytocin every time we slap happies. It's not fair, but science, ya know?And Oxytocin's the same chemical released during childbirth and every time we nurse our babies, so that we will bond to them and not leave them in dumpsters and stuff. I get that it's so unfeminist to admit commitment free sex and abortion aren't empowering to us, but I'll go with biology on this one, since it's been around a whole heck of a lot longer. 

So in conclusion, mainstream feminists should be pissed at science, and not us. 

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Ain't no shame in my game...

This line of thinking is a sellout to porn addicted men and corporate marketing machines. It's proven to leave women in poverty, abusive relationships, addiction and poor mental health. Is that the freedom that we're after or do we want to help young women be healthy and strong? We're missing the human heart and buying into exactly what the male dominated corporate culture wants us to...



The follow up....

If You Are A Feminist Who Supports Abortion, You Kinda Suck At Equal Rights.

Abortion in Cases of Rape

Abortion in Cases of Rape from Destiny Herndon-DeLaRosa on Vimeo.

A lot of things in this video might offend you, but the thing that should absolutely offend you the most is that fact that I say "feminist tingles." I dunno, dude. It was early. I have no excuse. That was not OK.

Click here for the iPhone friendly YouTube Version.

Trapped

I was away at a literary conference all weekend, so when the story broke about Aurora, Colorado shooting Friday I could only get tidbits here and there between my sessions. My heart was breaking for the people there, the pointless destruction, and the taking of lives.

However, today someone sent me an interesting story that I had not previously seen (I apologize if it's been all over the news for the last 72 hours and I just missed it). The story inside the story in this couples interview is what got me. They have two children together and basically the boyfriend/baby daddy/father abandons his girlfriend and kids in order to save himself.

I am not necessarily saying it's what happened in this case, but.... has anyone else noticed an influx in women who have been so beat down and deceived by the "all women just want to trap you and marry you" cliché that now we allow men to actually trap us?

For instance this woman has had not one, but two of this man's children. He did not marry her. I can only imagine that it had something to do with him "not being ready" or some other equally as lame excuse but as I stated above that's pure speculation. However, no matter how she files on her taxes, she will never truly be "single" ever again. As soon as a woman has a child, she might as well be married because she is now part of a unit, an inseparable package deal for any future suitors. That's not true for men though. They can have 15 kids by 15 different women and still someone, somewhere will offer to make it 16.

Society as a whole has come to expect so much less from men. Is it because of the feminist movement? I don't know, but I often wonder. Every time they turn around we're flexing our muscles declaring how we can do it all alone, so there is no longer that sense of guilt that a 1950's deadbeat dad might have felt. Society no longer shames him in the way it once did. Because after all, we're just a bunch of marriage-starved baby-makers looking to cure our fetus fever.

But back to the original point of this post. The man below was not willing to commit to the woman who lovingly sacrificed her freedom for him, so why are we surprised when he will not sacrifice his life for her or his children when he's suddenly the one trapped?

No, the only thing that surprised me about all of this is that after fleeing the theater to save himself, and allowing a 19-year-old stranger to protect his girlfriend and kids, he actually had the balls to go in and finally propose to her. Oh, and then that she said "yes." C'mon girl.... fo' real?

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Post by Destiny

Turning the Tables on Pornography

Disclaimer, disclaimer, blah, blah, disclaimer...
Girls Will Be Girls....(NSFW...or kids) from Destiny Herndon-DeLaRosa on Vimeo.


(Side Note: Let me just clarify, the only reason this "gift" was not immediately thrown out was b/c I didn't quite know how to properly dispose of such a thing. I figured with my luck if I just tossed it in the trash a band of raccoons would likely uncovered it and it'd be rolling down my alley the next morning for all the neighbors to see. So, long and very uninteresting story short, I threw it up on the top of a shelf in a closet and forgot about it for seven years....until I realized how much said "prop" could really help drive my point home here. Geez, did I throw in enough double entendres for ya? yikes.)

"Donations"

Have you ever wondered how Planned Parenthood receives so much money in donations each year?

I mean, they already get a whopping $305.3 million from our federal government annually (a.k.a. tax payers), so they're hardly a shabby little charity. But on top of that, the community must really love and support them to be donating an additional $212.2 million a year, right?

I guess I always just assumed those donations came from the fanatical, old fauxminists at their ritzy luncheon fundraisers, but as it turns out, that's not the case at all.

A dear friend of mine was telling me how when she found out she was pregnant with her son she had to go and get an official 'Proof of Pregnancy' document before she was able to apply for Medicaid... and SURPRISE, SURPRISE, PP wasn't giving out any freebies. They told her over the phone when she scheduled her appointment to make sure she brought $40 in cash with her to the clinic.

After she was seen and received her proof of pregnancy form she went up to the counter to "check out."  The woman at the front desk proceeded to run down a very long list of services, tallying them up as she went, then telling her how today's appointment should cost her a couple hundred dollars. The blood left her face and of course she began to panic, "BUT WAIT!" the woman said, "you qualify for quite a few grants, lucky girl!" All of them of course come from the $305.3 PP gets from you and me, however, I doubt she informer her of that. After all was said and done, her total was a manageable twelve dollars. Then just as my friend began to regain her bearings and reach into her pocket for the money, the woman asks if she would like to make a donation to Planned Parenthood today...

Now she knows that the woman knows she has $40 in cash on her, and she also knows that thanks to PP's "generosity" she just saved a boatload on the services she received, so how could she not make a donation?

The nerve.

By their own definition they are a NOT-FOR-PROFIT medical facility there to reach out to poor, and un(der)insured women!

Would a food pantry ever ring up all of your items, tell you how much you should be paying, then ask you for a donation on your way out the door? I don't think so. And why is that? Because it's manipulative, and they are true non-profits... not big sleazy businesses like Planned Parenthood.

Women, especially those of us on a budget and with less than desirable health coverage (or none at all), deserve better than this. However, right now America's largest abortion providers runs a monopoly on well woman care. We must ask ourselves, why are we being sent to abortion clinics for our healthcare? Not to be a conspiracy theorist, but the answer seems pretty obvious to me.

The quickest way to eradicate poverty in the federal government's eyes is to kill poor people before they're even born.

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