"Feminism" has come to mean we have to
accept and glorify anything that anyone wants to do as long as they slap that
label on it.
It's a major issue for me when Beyoncé slithering
on a pole is considered a feminist act, and even more so when a man
manipulating a woman into allowing abuse is considered a personal choice and
empowering. I don't know when it became wrong to say "um, that might not
be good for that woman personally or really women in general," but I think
that's where feminism has lost its way.
We no longer have any standards for women based on
human dignity. That's why you can have porn stars claiming to be
"feminists" when truly most are not sex positive at all but actively
encouraging a culture that sees women as meat to get their rocks off to. Then
we're up in arms when dudes catcall women on the streets. Seriously????
Why is it okay to privately use women but then
such a shock when they do it publicly? You want to smash rape culture? Start by
smashing porn. Start by calling out a practice that is training men and many
women how to use others, in 2D form, because it will not stay contained to
their computer screens. There's nothing sex positive about disconnecting sex
from human dignity. That's actually anti-sex-positive and leads to nothing more
than masturbation where you're using another person rather than your
hand.
I love sex, GOOD SEX, so much that I'm going to
call out shit that I think hinders it. To me, that's being truly sex positive.
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